Life is challenging and it can be quite difficult to do the things you want to do when the things you need to do wear you out. After work and family time all I really want to do is sit down and watch some TV but I know that I wont be able to properly enjoy my TV time until I take care of stuff around the house. The average day for me at this point it has gotten to be pretty easy for me to dive right into my chores after my daughter goes to sleep. Some days though that is not the case, those days when everything seems to go wrong or an event is significantly more exhausting than expected. On those days it can feel like the most overwhelming thing in the world looking at my chores that need to be done.
When feeling like that I like to just ask myself if I can push just a little bit further. Like “can I at least get the living room picked up?” and once I do that then I say “I can at least get the dishwasher unloaded”. And I just keep asking and doing until either I have finished all of what I wanted to get done or I say “no, I really need to just sit for a bit”. I almost always am able to get more done than I was expecting and then I can relax feeling like I did what I could for the night.
This also has the added benefit of helping build resiliency. I have found that over time I have been able to get to the point where I am able to pretty much get all of my basic chores and activities done every night. Now let me be clear I did not start out like that, I use to be able to just knock out one chore for the night and feel like I put out this massive amount of effort. It has taken me years to build out my ability to just take care of stuff. I have come to realize that you need to celebrate your wins, forgive your loses and just keep trying to do better.